Would You Let Pornhub Install Your Offense?
Fight The New Drug posted this article (link) today and my TeamsOfMen framing mechanism kicked into high gear.
For context: I first came across FTND late in my college coaching career (see their FAST FACTS) and started using their scripts and info with both my players and my own kids at home (Let’s Talk About Porn activity). I found their material digestible, ACCURATE, and written in a way that actually resonates with young men.
Fast forward to today’s article—I decided to decode the lengthy piece and present it in both the graph at the end of this writing and in the following words:
You’re a coach of a 100-man football roster or a 30-man basketball program. Let’s apply the percentages and stats directly to your locker room:
32 of your guys are INTENTIONALLY using porn every day.
8 of your guys are treating Pornhub like their PROFESSOR on sexual experiences.
33 of your players got sexts last night, and 20 of them sent sexts back.
50 of your guys went on a “slutpage” last night (or your entire JV roster of 15 did).
You don’t think that AFFECTS the climate and culture of your team—the words they use, the things they listen to, the way they interact with women on campus? Of course it does.
Even worse, coach, let me reframe it:
What if I told you 25 of your football players sat through a 30-minute lecture on your 3rd-down blitz package that installed THE WRONG sequence and keys?
Or that 10 of your basketball players were intentionally watching videos after practice that taught them the WRONG read in ball screen offense?
You’d lose your mind—because you know that means they won’t execute in games. So why are we settling for the WRONG teachers influencing the WRONG reads for our guys in their intimate relationships?
Coach Prompts
How would I respond if a third of my players were learning the WRONG scheme in practice?
Do I apply the same urgency to correcting harmful “lessons” my players are learning about relationships and intimacy?
Where in my program can I insert short but intentional conversations to combat this influence?
Player Prompts
Who are the “teachers” shaping the way I think about sex and relationships right now?
If I found out my basketball playbook was wrong, I’d fix it—so why am I okay with getting the wrong information about intimacy?
How does what I watch, share, or joke about in the locker room affect the way I treat people on campus?
