First off, today, CLICK and watch the entire IG reel above from @mandiptalkspredators.
Second, click on our Unscripted FREE testing link HERE and select “She Is Not A Group Project.”
Rep through how you literally would confront the same type of scenario Mandi presents if it happened on your team bus on the way to a game.
Then, reconvene with other coaches from your staff (after they do the exact same rep) and talk through what was hard, what felt authentic to you, your players and your guiding principles as a staff.
Finally, go back through and rep again by yourself.
I'm rolling this out with my own hoops staff this coming weekend, and after we are done, I'll share some stats/takeaways from the reps on Monday.
But, most importantly, this scene that Mandi describes IS EVERYWHERE.
Young men are in relationships, they convince (or are convinced) to share photos and/or provocative texts, and those images and texts get shared with friend groups, teammates, anyone in the vicinity.
Someone agreeing to send YOU a photo is not someone agreeing to have your boys see it.
And the harm that can come from that distinction being ignored is probably beyond what the original sender of those images imagined OR what you thought possible from your players.
Our buses, our dead time in open gyms, our team room…all were ripe for these huddles of giggling nonsense. It worried me. It enraged me. And so I did a TeamsOfMen lesson on it (I can share with anyone who needs the slides) with our summer basketball roster of 30 players and coaches.
And then I built Unscripted to give coaches reps in handling situations just like this one.
I don't want to reduce the level of harm that can come from the nonconsensual sharing of nudes by making an analogy to a late-game situation on the court or field. But you would NEVER expect your team to execute in the biggest moments of a game having not addressed and repped that situation in practice.
So why do you expect yourself to handle that conversation well if you have never had it before?
Coach Assignment
Watch. Rep. Discuss. Rep Again.
Player Prompts
Agree, Disagree or Unsure: If someone willingly sends you a provocative photo of themselves, you should be able to decide who else sees it.
Imagine you're one of the other guys in the huddle Mandi describes. What could you say or do to interrupt what's happening? What might make that difficult?
If someone trusted you enough to send you a private image, what responsibilities come with being the person they chose to trust?
