“Support Isn’t Shelter”

Yesterday my youngest turned 13—so instead of a full blog, my energy (and reflection) went into finishing Part Six of The Mirror Project on Medium.

This piece is a response to Jessica Grose’s recent New York Times column challenging the idea of a “boy crisis.” I found myself nodding along—and also pushing back hard on the deeper problem: the outdated scripts we still hand to boys, and the assumptions we make about how to help them.

Huge thanks to Elizabeth Kennedy, prevention professional and friend, for putting Grose’s article on my radar. This reflection wouldn’t exist without that nudge.

Full piece here: https://kioane.medium.com/

Coach Prompt:

When you say you're “supporting your guys,” are you shielding them—or stretching them? What’s one way you can hold the bar with them instead of lowering it for them?

Player Prompt:

What’s something you’ve avoided trying hard at—because it might make you look soft, nerdy, or weak?
What would it look like to push anyway?