The Most Unpopular Skill in the Manosphere
Today’s blog is in response to this interview with The Game and Shannon Sharpe on Sharpe’s Club Shay Shay. The topic is a past statement and rap lyrics The Game used to call out previous intimate relations with Kim Kardashian (during her marriage to Kanye West).
Now, almost everyone involved in this story gives you plenty to quarrel with in terms of morality and humanity (and yes — Kanye in particular is off the rails with his vitriol). But I still think this moment is useful.
Why?
Because The Game — a manbox-bathed hip hop artist whose public persona and lyrics often scream a scripted version of masculinity — does something you rarely see: he admits there is no excuse for what he said and did.
He says he spent years trying to justify it.
And now he’s in a place where he can name it plainly: he caused harm, and he should not have done it.
That level of accountability is rare in today’s manosphere.
Most guys — and especially famous ones — double down on the past. They hide behind “I gotta do me,” or “that’s just who I am,” instead of reflection, repair, and owning harm without bargaining.
SIDEBAR: I might be old enough that your guys don’t even know who The Game is… or who Kim Kardashian is… so this might not land. But the principle absolutely does.
Coach Prompts
Where do you see men in your program default to “explaining” harm instead of owning it?
What does real accountability sound like to you—without excuse, without blame shifting, without “context” doing all the work?
How do we teach repair after harm without turning it into humiliation or performative shame?
Player Prompts
What’s the difference between an explanation and an excuse?
When was the last time you owned something without adding “but…” at the end?
If you hurt someone, what does “repair” actually look like beyond saying sorry?
