You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know

Let’s learn via laughing today shall we?

Show the clip above (originally posted on X by @keshvibezTV) of actor/comedian doing Marcello Hernandez stand-up about the trials and tribulations of life as a woman.

Raised by a single mom, Hernandez’ set features hilarious stories and depictions of

• Women’s clothing

• Women’s facial care

• Women’s hair care

• Women’s hygiene

all from the perspective of a young man (Hernandez) growing up and tagging along to all these appointments and being in these situations with his mom. The take is honest, rooted in lived experience, and HILARIOUS.

I throw this one in here for our blog today because as serious as many of the subjects we broach are, I do believe doses of levity and laughter matter. I think humor can help lower the barriers in a room, allow young men to relax and hopefully, be more willing to engage in a topic they normally wouldn’t.

And, I think these topics could be just as much a “Women 101” conversation course as anything as Hernandez talks about what men don’t know about types of women’s clothing, how their hair appointments actually go, and, yes, what a “Brazilian” spa session really entails.

Young men don’t know what they don’t know (hell, a lot of their dad’s don’t know what they don’t know) and letting them learn in a space of stand up comedy is a recipe for growth. There’s value in being able to admit that, laugh about it, and get curious about experiences that aren’t yours. And sometimes, letting that curiosity start in the space of stand-up comedy can make the learning feel a whole lot less threatening.

Coach Prompts

• What topics do your players seem more willing to explore through humor than through a formal conversation?

• Where might laughter help lower the temperature enough for your players to admit, “I actually don’t know anything about this”?

• After showing the clip, resist becoming the expert: what questions could you ask that turn the laughter into curiosity?

Player Prompts

• What was something Hernandez talked about that you realized you genuinely knew very little about?

• Why can it sometimes feel easier for guys to joke about something they don’t understand than admit they don’t understand it?

• What’s something about the experiences of women in your life that you’ve never actually thought to ask them about?